Positive Coping Guide
Are you healing?
· List of healing actions (p.36 Creating Your Own Environment)
· Lists of what others can do or say (p. 37 Creating Your Own Environment)
· Hobbies (p.37 Creating Your Own Environment)
· Your Healing Container (p.38 Creating Your Own Environment)
· Letters and cards from dear Friends or family
· I love you notes from your child or partner
· Pictures
· Uplifting quotes
· Songs that help you heal
· A list of things you like about yourself
· Soothing items in your space (p.40 Creating Your Own Environment)
· Collage of Safe Space
· Friends who cheer you up
Do you feel safe?
· Go over the new boundaries packet
· Go to your Safe Place (p. 9, 10, &10b Creating Your Own Environment)
· Go over your boundaries and prepare for the next time that happens
· When asserting your boundary be sure not to attack the other person. (verbally or in any other way)
Do you feel at peace?
· List of what will make your place peaceful (p.28-29 Creating Your Own Environment)
· Boundaries that will give you this peace (p.30 Creating Your Own Environment)
· Mindfulness
· Slow down and take in the beauty around you.
Do you believe in yourself ?
· Compliment account journal (p.9-11 Creating Yourself)
· Read p. 16 Creating Yourself
· Personal Skills, Character Traits, & things I have Accomplished Resume (p. 18-19 Creating Yourself)
· You Can Believe in Yourself– challenging negative beliefs (p.21-26 Creating Yourself)
· When a negative belief enters your mind, challenge that belief
Do you know what you want to be like?
· Finding Mentors/role models in life (p. 29 –30 Creating Yourself)
· Look around for people you look up to and decide what character traits you want to have.
Are you becoming the person you want to become?
· Finding your inner strength / Character traits (p.30-36 Creating Yourself)
· Look at the character traits you have chosen along with the actions. –
· Are you working toward them?
Are you acting based on who you want to be instead of reacting?
· Finding your inner strength (p.36-37 Creating Yourself)
· Remember your character traits you have chosen and when tempted to react to something, act based on how you’ve chosen to act instead.
Are your relationships positive?
· Friend requirements (p.38-39)
· Make sure they are living up to your friendship requirements.
o Talk with the person and explain your concern.
o Use your character traits to help you not react.
o Use a positive attitude in dealing with relationships.
o If they are pulling you down, instead of you lifting them up, you may have to end the relationship.
· Make sure you are living up to your friend requirements.
o People with traits like you will be drawn to you.
Are you moving toward you dreams or goals?
· Letting Your Soul Soar (p.40-53 Creating Yourself)
· Look for a while at your dream board.
· Plan one thing you can do today toward a dream or goal.
· Remember that you have left your fears out of the moments that you are working toward your dreams.
Are you keeping uplifted and inspired?
· Read through positive Journals or write in them. (p. 8-15 Creating Yourself)
o Compliment Account
o Spirit Hugs & Heart Kisses
o Grateful Journal
o Moments of Enlightenment / Ah-Ha journal
o Life’s lessons
§ Find the lesson in today
· Read through past positive coping sheets or write a new one.
Do you have a positive attitude?
· Go over your quotes and pick out a few to help you have a more positive attitude.
· Go through your journals & find those things to remind you of your worth.
· Find 3 things to be grateful for each day.
· Use mindfulness in negative situations.
· Find something positive or to laugh about in negative situations.
· Make up excuses for people you might otherwise be mad at. (That person that cut in front of me had to go to the bathroom really bad!)
